The best kept secret in the lifestyle.
BDSM as Pleasure places at its core the voluntary power exchange of the submissive to the attendant dominant. There is something exceptionally surreal and satisfying about completely letting go in a safe environment. In particular in this hectic moment that we all live in. Even more importantly, not letting go alone or with a faux dom but doing so with a knowledgeable partner serving the submissive as the attendant dominant.
BDSM as Pleasure is thoughtful and intentional. During and following the power exchange the sub has previously approved every act and action of the attendant dominant – it is what the sub wants; not what the dominant wants to do. The dom is always serving the sub. As such, the S/d pairing is so important. The attendant dominant must be completely comfortable with the kink wishes of the submissive. For example, not every dom is comfortable exerting excessive pain, needle play or prolonged breath control. Choosing the wrong dom can create an immediate buzz kill that breaks the experience for the submissive. That is why submissives should look outside their existing relationships to find the perfect match for where they want to go.
This prior agreement allows the submissive to completely let go. Effortlessness of body and emptiness of mind is a joyous journey that has no end. Each time the sub submits; they can go further.
Who is attracted to BDSM as Pleasure? Although any person can participate, there are a few types of people superbly seated to excel in this play. Some examples include natural submissives Tradwifes, Catholic submissives and escape subs.
The natural sub is a person who is authentically submissive, often for as long as they can remember. Their natural predilection is to serve others in a demure manner. They are attracted to the strength of others and are voluntarily complicit in their control.
He or she masks the depth of their submission to conform to societal norms and the wishes of their partners. To remove that mask and fully immerse themselves into who they truly are and in the absence of judgement in BDSM as Pleasure is invigorating and natural.
The Tradwife is also an ideal candidate for BDSM as Pleasure play. Believing in traditional gender roles and serving their husband and household aligns themselves perfectly with this type of play. Exercising those steadfast traditional roles in the bedroom makes the transformation complete.
The BDSM lifestyle also effortlessly attracts catholic submissives. In Catholic marriages, husbands and wives are called to submit to each other out of love, respect, and trust. This submission is based on the idea of placing oneself under the other person's mission. In BDSM as Pleasure as in life it is the wife who submits, not the husband.
Although the scripture states both husbands and wives, in practice the wife more frequently places herself under her husband’s mission. Extending this submission to the bedroom is not a leap.
For natural subs, trad wives and catholic submissives the most difficult aspect of play is actually and authentically stating their true wants over the real or perceived wants of their partners. Another challenge is for these traditional men to allow their women to place themselves in control. Remember the importance of the S/d pairing? That is why many of these types of submissives prefer outside guidance from a knowledgeable attendant dom.
Finally, the escape sub. This is a person who is always in control. Often a person with significant authority and responsibility over others. With this comes incredible stress and an absence of work life balance whatsoever. Think Wall Street, investment banking, start ups or multinational corporations. They are always turned on and crave turning off, even for a moment.
BDSM as Pleasure is a small respite from the chaos. In play, disrobing becomes a ceremonial event. It is the removing of the day as they hand over that stress to the attendant dominant who cleanses their naked body as they immerse themselves into nothingness for a while finally with someone else in control.
Perhaps BDSM as Pleasure is the perfect destination for you.
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